
Blog day 325: To the one I love
by
Anne Rainbow
on Fri 28 Dec 2007 10:20 AM GMT
About four years ago, I found myself in a position where I could not afford to buy presents for my family and friends. Prior to that, like many people, I had spent a fortune each Christmas, showering gifts on all and sundry. My reduced status was a self-inflicted situation; I am not complaining. My two offspring understood and I can't remember the details now; I think we just agreed not to exchange gifts that year.
However, I still wanted to thank those who had helped me to survive the previous six months; the ones who had shown themselves to be true friends. I decided that all I could give them was my time so I designed a gift voucher entitled 'Dreams come true'. Each one was worth an hour and could be exchanged for anything they felt I could offer. I gave many of these vouchers to a few close friends and they redeemed them over the following months. I helped one to choose a laptop; another, I trained to use PowerPoint in preparation for a job interview, and so on. Later, I realised I would have given this help even if the vouchers had not been there to exchange, but these friends would not have asked me; they thought I was always too busy and they didn't like to bother me with their IT problems.
Having got out of the habit of spending, spending, spending at Christmas, I find the gift of my time - and even more so, my love - is one that is appreciated. It is not a cheap cop-out option. To make time for someone involves caring enough about them and - somehow - that involves caring enough about myself. A win-win situation that I have not yet quite fathomed out.
One thing I can do, if I set myself aside enough thinking time, is to write a poem, like this one.
To the one I love
Christmas is the time of year
For all to gather around
When we plan to celebrate
And life’s harmony is found
On this oh so special day
To lighten the heart in you
I offer you happiness
To make your wishes come true
My gift, to the one I love
Is power enough to cope
The wisdom to know it’s right
To greet tomorrow with hope
Yes, you can walk on the moon
Leap with the salmon upstream
Imagining tomorrow
When our life mirrors your dreams
So, take me, please, when you go
On this journey that’s called life
I’ll be your best companion
Far better than any wife
I’ll be always at your side
Still there, when you glance away
Smiling, when you look at me
And loving you, every day